Pay Attention

by | May 29, 2011 | 0 comments

On one of the widow forums on FB that I get, the founder poses questions and widows leave their answers in the comments.  Today’s was about what kinds of dreams you’ve had about your spouse and if you have a favorite.

I thought this answer, from one woman, was beautiful:

For months, I dreamed every night, just before sunrise, that I’d hear him getting ready in the morning. Showering, brushing teeth, shaving, opening drawers…..just typical sounds of early morning. Sounds I never paid much attention to, until they were gone.

I wish it wasn’t like this, the not paying attention to what you have while you have it- but it is.  

Pay attention.


May 29, 2011


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