A little turn or two

by | Jan 28, 2020 | 3 comments


January 28, 2020


  1. Beth

    You are such a gifted writer. I have been following your writing for years. You helped me so much in my early days as a widow raising young children. Thank you for writing and sharing your thoughts. Your daughter is truly blessed to have you as her mom.

    • JAC

      Thank you, Beth. It means so much to me to feel useful in some way. I’m sure you’ve done an amazing job mothering. I salute you for all the hidden work you’ve done.

  2. MAA

    Thank you for sharing, Julia.

    Here’s what I said in an essay I wrote in the spirit of writing as therapy and for a select few about a personal loss I experienced just over a decade ago: “If only I, a mere mortal, could turn back the hands of time and let that split second pass you and your family by – uneventfully, peacefully.” We, the survivors, are members of a club that no one ever wants to belong to, a fitting reference I’ve seen on more than one occasion, e.g., http://www.aliveinmemory.org/2014/09/27/the-club-nobody-wants-to-belong-to/#.XjEr2sgzbIU

    I find the Buddha’s “Five Remembrances” helpful.

    I am of the nature to grow old.
    There is no way to escape growing old.
    I am of the nature to have ill-health.
    There is no way to escape having ill-health.
    I am of the nature to die.
    There is no way to escape death.
    All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature to
    change. There is no way to escape being separated from them.
    My actions are my only true belongings.
    I cannot escape the consequences of my actions.
    My actions are the ground on which I stand.

    Translated by Thích Nhất Hạnh

    Also relevant and implicit in some of what you wrote is this powerful quote by Khalil Gibran: “Life is weaker than death, and death is weaker than love.”


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