by | Jul 6, 2011 | 2 comments

The “eve” of important days seems almost as important, if not more so, than the actual day.  Christmas Eve, New Years’ Eve, the eve before one’s wedding day.  It is the time of anticipation.

In 2010 this was the eve of your death.  It was the night I wrote you- “Love you.  Missing you tonight,” and I did…I really missed you.

And tonight that hasn’t changed.  I love you…I’m missing you tonight, Dan.  But I will gratefully acknowledge that tonight isn’t the eve of your death- that was one year ago.  Tonight is the eve of your memorial and the anniversary of your death- a day on which we will remember your life and honor you, a day I wish to be about hope and togetherness.  I will not have you die again.  That is a one time event.

There very well may be a second life, an after life as we commonly refer to it.
There is no second death.

“How can someone be born when they are old?” Nicodemus asked? “Surely they cannot enter a second time into their mother’s womb to be born?” 

Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the Kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.  Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit.  You should not be surprised at my saying, ‘You must be born again.’  The wind blows wherever it pleases.  You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going.  So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.

John 3.4-8


July 6, 2011


  1. megan

    That is powerful – you will not have to live his death again. Thank you for that.

    love to you today, however it may find you.

  2. brie.

    i have been thinking of you very frequently these last days. i pray it has been a time of peace. there is so much to hope for, in this life and in the 'life to come…'


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